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An Introduction of Titles

As stated in my earlier post, I've decided that using descriptive titles is a clearer way to explain my relationships than easily muddled letters.

In this post, I aim to say a few words about why I chose the titles I did.

BestFriend -- This one needs no explanation, she is simply my Best Friend, and has been since we were eight. There are other people who may be closer to me or know more about my current life, but they do not qualify in any way as a best friend.

BelovedBoy -- As a somewhat aware non-heterosexual, I've spent much time looking for a good way to refer to my boy/girl/mtf/ftm/boi/grrl/whatever friends. Significant Other just sounds so clinical to me (despite xkcd's wonderful bastardization of the term), partner implies an eternity I'm not sure I'm emotionally ready to face, lover implies sexual intimacy, etc. I finally hit upon Beloved as getting the point across, and being entirely genderneutral.

BelovedDude -- See above. She would be BelovedGirl if she hadn't specifically mentioned that she doesn't feel the word girl fits.

ComplicatedBoy -- As per xkcd, I formally asked him to be my complication on Facebook. He is the mentally youngest of my current partners, I believe, which adds several layers of complication.

ComplicatedGirl -- She is not actually very complicated at all, beyond claiming to be heterosexual and having quite an interest in girls. The name serves primarily to tie her with ComplicatedBoy, as they have a very close relationship.

CrazyEx -- He is my ex. He is crazy. He fucked me up quite a bit, and I am bitter. He may very well do non-crazy things, but that doesn't stop that he tainted almost three years of my life by being a part of them.

DragonTech -- He is a professional theatre tech, trying not to starve. Through extended chatting online, I've learned that he tends to be draconic with his actions and avatar.

ExEx -- She is my ex-girlfriend. Who, during the summer of 2008, I began dating again. Ex-exgirlfriend. Ex-ex.

FatherMaster -- We are merely sexually involved, and theoretically not even that, He quite likes being in command of a squirmy little nineteen year old, giving him the master title. He is also the first person to ever be in a situation where they could bone fide hold me as I cry, and has spent much energy worrying about me and supporting me, giving him the title of Father. (My daddy issues will be a separate post)

Gentleman -- He really truly is. He is such a Nice Boy it almost hurts to think about. I'm still waiting for him to be revealed to have the head of his ex girlfriend in his closet, or something, he is that sweet and pure and good. (Pure is slightly of a misnomer -He's heard of Good Vibes, among other things.)

GirlfriendInLaw -- This is a technically inaccurate title, in that there is no marriage to cement the in-law title. She is the other girlfriend of my BelovedBoy.

Heartbreaker -- He was a high school romantic fling who dumped me, went out with this crazy bitch "friend" of mine for two years, and took something like a year and a half for me to actually get over. We are now quite close friends, but he remains the sharpest pain in my heart.

Kitty! -- The first time I ever met him, he spent the length of time acting more than a little cat-like. Old nicknames die hard.

OneNightGirl -- A girl I had a one night threesome with.

OneNightBoy -- A boy I had a one night threesome with.

Redhead -- And absolutely *gorgeously* so.

Regret -- There was a point in my life where I had to decide between continuing to date CrazyEx, who was local, or Regret who was quite not. I chose the former. I believe that my experiences have all stacked upon each other to bring me to the quiet perfection that is my current relationships, but given the ability to choose the other way at that point, I would have been hard pressed not to change my mind and save myself some pain.

ShibariBoy -- I picked him up this summer, and for a while we just talked shop, before realizing that the sextalk was getting more intense, and oh yes, naughty things wanted to be done between the two of us. We've still gotten little chance, but he is absolutely wonderful to distract my thoughts with.
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A cast of letters

For the sake of my personal anonymity, I shall refer to the people in my real world and my real life by letters or numbers. Dependent on the person, they may have one or two characters to identify them. I hope they are not found to be too confusing.

With many of them, I hope to later do a proper introduction post, that gives a more in-deapth look at a single person, explaining who they are to me and how they've impacted me sexually. Once that has been done, I shall provide links in this post.

I will list them in the following way:
Name -- our relationship, their age, their sexualities, their gender, their kinks, location.

EDIT: After a thought-provoking post in polyamory, I've decided to use descriptive names instead of initials. I have done a separate post explaining why I chose each descriptor, which can be found here.

The location labels whether they are local (in the same city I attend college), back home (in the state where I grew up) or far away (anywhere else). The terms "mtf" and "ftm" stand for "male to female" and "female to male" respectively.

The list is alphabetical.

Me -- involved sexually, 19 years old, pansexual, polyamorous, female leaning genderneutral, light interest in bondage, dom/sub, and light pain (biting, spanking, scratching), local


BestFriend -- my best friend, never involved romantically or sexually, 19 years old, heterosexual, bisexual?, monoamorous, female, bondage, dom/sub, back home

BelovedBoy -- involved romantically, involved sexually, involved with GirlfriendInLaw, 31 years old, heterosexual, polyamorous, male, vanilla, local

BelovedDude -- involved romantically, involved sexually, 21 years old, pansexual, asexual, polyamorous?, genderneutral, FTM, light interest in bondage, dom/sub, light pain, far away

ComplicatedBoy -- involved romantically, have been involved sexually, involved with ComplicatedGirl, involved with a currently unnamed girl, ???, 27 years old, heterosexual?, male, ???, local

ComplicatedGirl -- involved with ComplicatedBoy, possibly involved with FatherMaster, 20? years old, heterosexual?, female, ???, far away

CrazyEx -- have been involved romantically, have been involved sexually, 37 years old, heterosexual, bisexual?, monoamorous, male, interest in anal, back home.

Dragon -- involved romantically and sexually, 23 years old, bisexual, polyfriendly, male, interest in BDSM, light pain, far away

ExEx -- have been and once again are involved romantically, 18 years old, homosexual, monoamorous, pre-everything ftm, ???, back home

FatherMaster -- involved sexually, possibly involved with GirlfriendInLaw, involved with a currently unnamed girl, 36 years old, heterosexual, bisexual?, polyamorous, male, interest in bondage, dom/sub, master/slave, pain, local

Gentleman -- involved romantically, involved very mildly sexually, 24? years old, heterosexual?, polyfriendly, male, ???, local

GirlfriendInLaw -- involved with BelovedBoy, possibly involved with FatherMaster, 24 years old, heterosexual, female, ???, far away

Heartbreaker -- have been involved romantically, 21 years old, heterosexual, male, ???, back home

Kitty! -- involved sexually, 21 years old, heterosexual, bisexual?, male, ???, back home

OneNightGirl -- involved sexually once, 19? years old, bisexual, female, threesomes, ???, local

OneNightBoy -- involved sexually once, 20 years old, heterosexual?, possibly pre-everything mtf, Bondage, heavy pain, possibly dom/sub, possibly master/slave, threesomes, local

Redhead -- slightly involved romantically, slightly involved sexually, 21 years old, heterosexual, polyamorous, male, bdsm, biting, other light kink, threesomes, exhibitionism, far away

Regret -- have been and possibly still are involved romantically, have been involved sexually, involved with a currently unnamed girl, 22 years old, heterosexual, polyamorous?, male, very light interest in kink, far away

ShibariBoy -- involved sexually, involved with several unnamed girls, 27 years old, heterosexual, monoamorous?, bondage, electricity, dom/sub, far away